My World has Shifted~ The Essence of being a Grandmother in this Life.


I had planned to write about a completely different topic this week…and then a message came to me as a familiar fragrance.

My mother likes to show up in fragrance.  Once again today, I randomly caught the scent of her perfume as I stood in my yard bare feet to grass.

I was NOT surprised by her impromptu hovering because my sister became a grandmother yesterday.  She said it is one of the most powerful life changing experiences since her own entrance into motherhood…it’s been a baby summer, so I knew my mom wouldn’t miss all the excitement for the world.

When Grandmothers speak the world will be healed~ Hopi Proverb

I realized after the conversation with my sister, that with my mother gone, 13 years this November, I am the elder woman in my lineage, her little tap on the shoulder no less.  The awareness of this shift in my matriline found me reflective,  notstalgic and teary for most of the day.  I thought about my mother and her strength, and that within her many gifts were nestled compassion and kindness.  She fed people literally and spiritually.


I thought about my maternal grandmother who in her own way taught me that our beauty is a spiritual experience- not an apology. She demonstrated a transient type of indulgent and beautiful courage; that our beauty is our personal statement to be enjoyed and nurtured.

I thought about my daughter who became a new mother for the second time in July.  I was so blessed…so, so blessed, to be there to witness, once again, her beauty and strength and the profound power of birth and motherhooda blessed window into the sacred.

So my place in this world has shifted, I am the mother of a mother. I now have two precious grandsons–Princes, one of the Stars and one of the Moon.  I love them fiercely.

It is a powerful LOVE.

I realized too that I am now closer to death than I am my birth. Instead of seeing my infinite life rolled out ahead of me, I am well aware of the fact that I have much less life (in years) to live here than I have already lived.  As I see the timeline of my life, my view has radically changed as I see the continuation of life that came through me.

We all leave legacies of who we are in how we love and what we value.

The ultimate message..we don’t need to have birthed children to become mothers of this earth.  Many women hold natural mother and grandmother essence in their energy; that’s how they show up in the world.  Many naturally assume these roles from the moment they are born.

Our beauty, power, and ultimately the mystery of life is sacred, and everything that is given in this life is a gift.

Being a grandmother holds the power of an open heart.  The power of realizing how deeply and intricately we are connected.  From MY grandmother seat, I know how powerfully my grandmothers were viewed within our family of women.

David Whyte muses, every child is bundle of our future appearances.

Yes, today I became aware of the strength, power and continuation of my appearance in my feminine lineage.

Being a Grandmother is not something we do,  it is something we are.  It is our divine nature.  It is represented by the great love, and humbling powerful moments that hold our divine connection.

Deep Bow to you my motherly sisters in this world.


Archetypes Life Midlife Spoken Out Loud

  • Deb lange September 8, 2014, 7:23 am

    Beautiful Dana! I love being a Mum, look forward to being a grandmother one day. My 2 sons are taking their time – but then they can! so one day I may have that privilege.
    So interesting that you say you smelt the fragrance of your Mum. I keep my Mum in my memory frequently, and yes, I remember her when I smell soap. She used to leave cakes of soap, either rose or lavender, in her drawers and cupboards to have everything smell fragrant.
    Bless mothering in our world today and always.

    Love Deb

    • Dana September 12, 2014, 3:24 am

      Hmmm Deb, rose and lavendar are two of my favorite scents. I love how you stay connected with your mum through scent. Yes bless mothering.

  • Elizabeth MacLeod September 8, 2014, 8:43 am

    I love your maternal grandmother…. “our beauty is a spiritual experience- not an apology” That made me smile. Beautiful post Dana …. and blessings to the grandmother in us all . . . xo

    • Dana September 12, 2014, 3:26 am

      Elizabeth you said something around mother’s day last year that swelled my heart. “anyone who has bent over another is a mother in this world” (my memory of your words). Beautiful like your wild spirit friend. Thank you for your presence.

  • Valerie September 8, 2014, 10:47 pm

    Thank you for including those of us who have not given birth in the circle of the mothers of the earth. I do feel a sacred feminine energy to care for others, the earth.

    I think what you are speaking to is also the connectedness of us all from generation to generation, the collective wisdom we have because of all of those who were there before us. If we listen to it, it’s incredibly powerful and sustaining.

  • Susie September 10, 2014, 11:51 am

    I absolutely adore the top picture – baby holding grandma’s finger (with henna, omg!) Being a mom of older teens with their grandmothers in their lives I am very aware of the changing landscape of the timeline of life. Thank you for your beautiful post!!

    • Dana September 12, 2014, 3:28 am

      Oh teens and grandmothers such rich time in life. The photo was a surprise taken by my daughter in law…my hand mendhi was a treat :)

  • Cathy Sykora September 10, 2014, 12:39 pm

    It is such a beautiful thing when there is a shift like that in life and in the dynamic of structure. One thing is absolutely true, each part of the dynamic is precious and should be cherished.

    • Dana September 12, 2014, 3:29 am

      I agree Cathy…I am SO happy to finally be aware and paying attention :)

  • april September 11, 2014, 2:12 am

    simply beautiful, dana. the tears were glistening in my eyes as i read your luscious words. and, for me, this sentence in particular stood out: “I thought about my mother and her strength.” i think about my own dear mother (away from me now for 12 years) and her immense strength. the strength that she has passed on to me. (i am so very grateful.)

    • Dana September 12, 2014, 3:31 am

      Thanks April, I share your gratitude.

  • Maria September 11, 2014, 6:16 am

    Hi Dana – inspirational! love this sentence – “Our beauty, power, and ultimately the mystery of life is sacred, and everything that is given in this life is a gift.” Our life and experiences are worthy gifts for us all.

    • Dana September 12, 2014, 3:33 am

      Yes, all to be cherished Maria..


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